Being a mum of three boys, I feel that one of the most important measures of success for my parenting career will be that the G boys know how to respect themselves and have respect for others.
In an effort to raise the bar in my parenting approach, I want to share with you a fabulous concept that I was told about and one that the two older G boys love and embrace.
The day in day out ‘nagging’ to get your kids to do the simplest things can seem like an uphill battle. However, we are often ignore (unintentionally, of course) the things that our kids do off their own backs. That was until now…Mr 6 and Mr 4 are praised for an (where possible) act of thoughtfulness and kindness with a warm fuzzy.
What is a warm fuzzy? For any crafty families, you will know that there are many uses for the ‘pom-pom’ and this one is up there. We have a bag of pom poms which we now call ‘warm fuzzies’.
So how does it work? Each G boy is given their own empty jar. Every time they are seen to be carrying out an act of kindness without prompting or are being thoughtful, I reward them with a warm fuzzy which they place in their jar.
The reward of a warm fuzzy gives the G boys an incentive to be kind and thoughtful and do nice things for others.
Things include carrying the shopping in, sharing without being asked, doing something for their sibling(s) without prompting and the list goes on.
We all know that most kids are very results driven, so when each child’s jar is full they are rewarded. The one with the full jar is asked to choose something that they would like to do with their brothers as a treat (within reason of course!). So far we have been bowling, to a trampoline park, to get an ice cream and the list goes on.
We don’t remove a warm fuzzy at any point as this can be seen as devaluing the good deed.
Such a simple, yet successful incentive program for kids of any age, and parents benefit from having children who show acts of kindness, too!