So, I'm getting married in 2 months time and my sister just sent me a voice note telling me that she's back with an on/off boyfriend and that he would be accompanying her to the wedding and she would confirm shortly whether that would be just him or him and his 3 kids from a previous relationship.
I am absolutely 100% against him coming because he physically and emotionally abuses my sister but I love my sister and really want her to be at the wedding.
Kids are welcome at the wedding (for our friends and family as it's a destination wedding and we have a child of our own so in principle, I have no issues with kids being there but because it's him and his kids, I don't want them (him and his brady bunch there at all).
I have no idea how to tell my sister this so I basically told my mom to tell her he can't come (and my mom says she never wants to see him because she won't restrain herself and if my dad finds out that this guy abuses her he will lose his sh*t too). Despite this, I probably need to say something to my sister, but I have no words!!!
I think she's being selfish by assuming he can come after all he's done to her knowing we all hate him too. This is my wedding and I can see it turning into a disaster if he comes.
None of us (family) like him and we don't condone abuse which is why I need to tell her he isn't welcome but how do I do this without hurting my sister (who is also a bridesmaid). I need her and her kids to be there in our special day. I just absolutely can't have this man at my wedding. My partner said I should just let her bring them for the sake of my relationship with my sister but I am not prepared to risk my wedding being ruined if he ends up assaulting her or being assaulted by someone else for assaulting her!
We have all tried to help her get out of the relationship but she goes back every time.